On an average day, I receive 100-150 spam e-mails about my love life and my need to wear *BLING *  while enjoying romance with my husband.  The other day after deleting another barrage to my spam folder, I turned to my husband and said, “Honey, did you know we need so much help with things in the bedroom?”  He started laughing.  And so began our warped sense of humor journey through saving some of the funnier suggestions for spicing up our love life.  I have taken great care to tastefully edit the material.

According to popular societal thinking -

It’s time to vitaminize your desire to help you prepare for action all night long and become her Drillosaur.  For frequent “getting busy”, she’s to wear nothing but her BLING. This will help you become an artist of love, because your performance in bed defines you.  You are guaranteed to experience love extreme.

Navigating the bedroom for Christian couples is difficult enough without sorting through the distorted messages that are sent via the internet and through mainstream media.  After 900 spam e-mails this week, a very clear picture emerged - it’s all about my needs and what I deserve. God’s love through the act of sacrifice and giving is entirely removed from the bedroom. 

There is an amazing richness and beauty within scripture that provides an incomparable set of instructions on intimacy in the bedroom.  Unfortunately, few couples pick up The Bible and read it together.  God’s design for sex is pure, good, wonderful, and perfect.  He thought sex was so important that he set aside an entire book fully devoted to it called Song of Songs.

This world sure knows how to mess up a beautiful thing.

I had the opportunity to witness a beautiful wedding yesterday.  Some may say that all weddings are beautiful; I would have to disagree.  For me, the level of beauty becomes evident in how a couple invites God into the center of the ceremony. 

As a marriage mentor, I’ve attended more than fifty weddings over the past twelve years.  Yesterday’s wedding was different than any other - it was a worship experience.

From the moment the guests were seated, the music drew you into God’s presence.   As the couple came forward to the altar, as with most weddings, the attention was on the bride.  However, the pastor immediately invited the witnesses in attendance into a story; the couple’s story, and how Christ had changed their lives.  After that, carefully chosen scripture told God’s story of how he designed marriage between a man and women.  He then brought the witnesses back into the fold by asking them to be supportive and loving, and to hold the bride and groom accountable for their vows.  

A hush fell over the room and a moment later the pastor prayed a prayer of Thanksgiving.  Then he paused and told the story of how this couple chose to court, rather than date.  Today would be their first kiss.  People sitting behind me drew in their breaths with a gasp and whispered, “No kissing, that’s amazing!”  The pastor instructed the new young husband to gently take his wife into his arms as a cherished and delicate piece of china, and enjoy the passion God had created between them with their first kiss.  The groom did an incredible job!

As the ceremony closed, the attendants broke into a song of celebration and dancing with the focus of joy and gratefulness to God.  They raised their arms and swayed and sang Alleluia’s.  I sat there and wondered if I caught a glimpse of how weddings were in Jesus’ time, where celebration and dancing occurred for a week.  My husband and I left the wedding ceremony with huge smiles on our faces.

I have a feeling this will be a wedding that is imprinted in our hearts and minds for a very long time.