I came across this excellent blog post (so take a read first), then come back here.

http://stufffchristianslike.blogspot.com/2009/08/605-having-doesnt-count-list.html

The DLC (Doesn’t Count List) really makes you think, doesn’t it?

Have you thought about the Doesn’t Count List when it comes to your marriage?

• It doesn’t count if I look a little longer than I should at someone other than my spouse
• It doesn’t count if I talk, joke, or smile with a co-worker of the opposite sex
• It doesn’t count if I share secrets or intimate details with someone that I don’t share with my spouse
• It doesn’t count if I chat with another male or female online
• It doesn’t count if I forget to schedule a date night, my spouse will forgive me
• It doesn’t count if I’m working hard for the family and miss dinner a few nights a week
• It doesn’t count if I use a few cruel words, since my spouse spewed a few at me
• It doesn’t count when I spend a little extra money on myself - I deserve it
• It doesn’t count if I go out for a meal with someone from the office of the opposite sex - alone
• It doesn’t count when I stay up late at night on the computer and view things that are pleasurable to me, since my spouse isn’t providing the amount of sex I need.