Ahhh… To live on a tropical island once we are married. There is nothing to do but stare into each other’s eyes and walk along the beach holding hands with warm sand oozing between our toes.  Coconut milk is in abundant supply with bananas galore.  Making love under the stars each night with the cool breezes gently touching our skin never requires any effort.   There is no need to hurry on an island, no need to communicate with others, and a couple can live on love day in and day out. 

There is a Jamaican saying that goes like this “fire deh a mus-mus tail him tink a cool breeze.“   Translated it means -  you may be heading for trouble and don’t even realize it.

My husband and I tried island living in our marriage - it didn’t work.  When troubles came our way, we fell flat on our faces.  We had nowhere to turn for help and were quickly drowning without a life raft to be found anywhere.

Island living is fun for a while, but eventually, when reality living enters the picture, it’s best to surround your marriage with a loving supportive community.  They will pray for you, provide accountability, build into you emotionally and spiritually, and be there when the tough times hit.

Once we moved off the island, we found aquatic inflatable tubes to keep our marriage afloat in the form of a small group.  They were our marriage lifesavers.