As I listened to the message in church this weekend, there is one particular sentence spoken by the pastor that pierced my heart.  “Jesus did not come to this earth to keep things status quo, he came to turn things upside down with His love - and that includes you.”

So often I get into this place of comfort with myself, and how I decide to love or not love others. When God feels it’s time for a heart change, I fight with all my might to resist that change.  I throw an adult temper tantrum by saying, “No, no, no. I don’t want to. You can’t make me.”

This becomes particularly evident in marriage. We become overly comfortable in how we interact with our spouse. When little effort is made, boredom, restlessness, and complacency slowly creep into our day-to-day interactions.  We may say to ourselves, “It’s not up to me to change, and bring excitement and love back into my marriage. I’ve tried a hundred times.”  What if God is nudging you to change, and love your spouse differently?  Are you willing to let His love turn you upside down?

What do you think would happen to your marriage if you said -

• “Yes, God.  I will follow your example of love today.”
• “I will ask my spouse how I can help them.”
• “I will plan a date night this week.”
• “I will call the babysitter.” 
• “I will get up and comfort our crying child tonight.”
• “I will make a cup of coffee for him or her this morning.”
• “I will take care of the bills that need to be paid.”
• “I will send a text message or email to say ‘I love you’.”
• “I will be the one who initiates intimacy.”

It’s amazing what happens when you say ‘yes‘ to change.   The effort it takes is much less that you think.  Surrender to God, and daily doses of love toward our spouse, have a way of bringing blessings to a marriage.